The Date

Well the guy that I met at the mixer asked me to go out Friday evening, we'll call him PK. We met up at a mutual venue and walked around and chose a restaurant in the area. We chose this really nice sushi bar and talked for hours. He asked me questions about my life and vice versa.

PK and I hadn't realized how long we were talking until the waitress came and told her that her shift was over but that another waiter could cash us out. He and I looked at it as our queue to leave. After leaving there we walked around taking in the scenery, it was a perfect evening. As we walked the street looking at a mini waterfall, he grabbed my hands and interlocked our fingers. I am not your typical PDA person, so that made me feel a tad bit uncomfortable. Nonetheless, I kept my hand in PK's as we strolled along.

The night ended with PK walking me to my car and kissing me goodbye. Again, I was caught off guard by him kissing me, not because I didn't enjoy his company, but kissing on the first date....I don't know, maybe I'm old-fashioned......I commented that it was a bit strange because it was strange having him kiss me in a parking lot as cars continued to drive past. He asked me to call him when I made it home and I did. We've texted since then but today, I did not hear from him at all. He did let me know that he was going to Mexico for a family vacation, so should I not expect to hear from him?

Idk....we shall see.....

Clarity

I did a two day fast this week. Not long for some people but for me, it was just enough. I feel like I have been in a vicious cycle lately, doing the same dumb things and wondering why I keep getting the same stupid results.

I've decided that after my lease is up that I am going to use a roommate locator so that I can pay off some bills and save. The townhouse I went to see a few weeks ago was wonderful and made me really yearn for home ownership. The current state of my financial situation will mean that I will never be able to save up enough for a down payment so I need to take the necessary steps. I am also going to start looking for a new job. My prayer is that any increase that I get will also go towards bills and savings. I was reading up on Vision Boards and I want to make one for myself, there are so many things I want, so I need to put them down and bring them into fruition.

The guy I had been dating kind of ticked me off. I asked him to do me a favor and he said he would but then went into asking me a ton of questions. It was Sunday when I asked him to do said favor and he has yet to mention it. When he wants or needs something, he never has to mention it more than once to me. I feel some kind of way about having to ask people who I am always there for to do something for me several times. I feel like if it was something he wanted, then he would have been more diligent about following up. I have made up my mind that if he doesn't mention it by Monday then I am done with him. It may seem petty but I am tired of wasting my time with people who don't treat me as I treat them. I was already thinking of cutting him off because we hadn't spoken in a week and he came contacting me. I had packed up a few things that he left at my place and put them in my front closet. He asked about his items when he came over. I went to the front to get them and he made a comment that I put his stuff by the door like I had done with Nbr's things. You're damned right, I don't have time for the bull.

I am ready to really start taking care of me because if I don't nobody else will. When I am cleared to start back working out by the doctor, I will. I am ready to get my life back on track.

All is Well

The new job has been keeping me super busy. There are days that I am in the office past time and I am one of those people who is ready to go at exactly quitting time! There is a lady who is older than me but who I am to begin supervising in the upcoming weeks. My boss was trying to give me time to get settled into my position before I had to begin my supervisory role but he thinks that this change needs to take effect sooner than later. The problem is that the lady pretty much feels that because I am younger than her, that she can boss me around. There have been a few instances that have made her feelings about where we stand pretty clear. Unfortunately, she is the only person unaware that I will be supervising her. She complains to me everyday about how she is overworked and underpaid and sometimes gets an attitudes with our superiors. I am so not looking forward to managing her.....

School is flying on by this semester. I have two very demanding classes that pretty much require that I attend online lectures. After last semester's fiasco but my group, new groups were formed and I was optimistic. One guy who was selling himself as such a great group member on the China trip has turned out to be a dud. He has really irked our group's nerves and last week, we submitted an assignment and purposely left his name off. All I can hope is that the fact that we left his name off the assignment will be a wake up call for him because he does not at all participate unless we pretty much stalk him.

I've been hanging out with a neighbor for a couple of months now. We thought it would be nice to not jump into a relationship, but to get to really know each other. I'm glad that we went about things this way. I have really been getting to know him and enjoy spending time with him, though at the same time I wonder if I can see myself in an actual relationship with him. At present, I am enjoying the moment. Do you guys know that people still ask me if Teddy has broken down and called me yet? How many months has it been? Please do yourself a favor and get over it...

Lastly, I am moving once again. I have a neighbor who has a verbally abusive man that just got out of jail. Every single day I hear him yelling at her telling her she is nothing, calling her out of her name and slamming doors, it is insane. The argument between them got so heated last night I decided to call the police but my friend talked me out of it. I'm just glad to be leaving this place. When I first moved here, it was a serene oasis but now it has turned into a dump that I can't wait to escape.

Back at Home

I'm back in the states!! My flight got in a little before midnight last night. I had a wonderful trip. I went to both Beijing and Shanghai and it was definitely a once in a lifetime experience.

The trip was structured so that we had seminars and also had the opportunity to explore the city. I met a few people who were very nice and I'm sure I will continue to keep in touch with. I also met a guy on the trip. At first, I thought that maybe he was a little peculiar because he kept looking at me. I guess I've been out of the loop for a minute because a class member brought to my attention that he just likes me and that's why he keeps staring.

Anyways he and I actually got to talking and were inseparable the rest of the trip. We hung out at night when the rest of the guys went to the club every evening, just talking. He's really sweet and everyone likes him, he has a way of making everyone feel comfortable. On the flight back from China, he got a lady to switch seats with me and even offered her $20. I thought that him making that gesture was super sweet. The only downfall is that he doesn't live in Texas but he's made it clear he'd like to talk anyway and questioned if I'd come visit if he bought a plane ticket for me.

My last official day of work was the Friday before I left for the trip. I have an interview tomorrow morning. I am so praying that I get this job, it's at my company but in a different department and it would be a promotion. I will keep you all posted. Oh and last thing I wanted to tell you all, I ended up getting a C- in my class, meaning I have to repeat thanks to my group members failure to get our video submitted on time. I am appealing the grade.

Mr. Squid

So I had a date last night with a guy who was more like a water dwelling, multi-legged creature. He tried his best to make sure at almost every minute possible he was touching me in some shape or form. I've mentioned before that I LOATHE people that are like this. This was ony date number two and he kept trying to put his paws all on me. The first date he was so nervous he barely made eye contact, now that he elevated to night number two, I guess he decided he could be himself.

So Sunday morning, the day of or proposed date, he texted me at 5am talkin about good morning. There is nothing good about 5am, so why are you texing me? I never replied because when I finally did get up I was running behind for church. When I got out of service he had texted me again at 9ish. I replied saying hello. His response was that he was starting to get scared since he hadn't heard from me all day Saturday. Yeah, you didn't hear from me because I told you I had plans.



We met up at Dave and Busters and the plan was that we were gonna play pool. Now our plan had been made earlier in the week and we texted randomly thrughout the week. He tried asking me Friday night if I wanted to see a movie Saturday but I informed him that I already had plans. Well pool turned into eating dinner which turned into him buying a gamecard without even asking me if I wanted to play any games. The pool game wouldn't have been complete without him trying to come behind me and instruct me how to hold the stick. Then after we were done eating he literally pushes my back from the chair so that he can put his arm behind me and starts trying to massage my shoulders, right there in the middle of the pool area!

Finally we used all our game credits and you'd think ok, we'd call it a night right? NOPE! HE wants to just sit in the game room and lay his head on my shoulder. I sat there as long as I could and then I told him it was about time for my tv show to come on, so we'd better get going. His response was that he didn't care about my tv show, then tried to laugh it off.

It's a safe bet that I won't be going out with him again.

Crazy Kelley

I'm sure you can tell by the title how this post is going to go. So after the dinner incident, Kelley still remained in contact with me. I even let him convince me to go out to a restaurant. I don’t know why, so don’t even ask.

We drove separate because again, he had something to do before we met up even though he lives less than five minutes away but I'd probably have suggested driving myself anyway. So we meet up at the restaurant and you'd think I was out with a celebrity, he knew so many people there. I was indifferent on how I felt about him chatting it up with everyone while leaving me just standing, waiting to place our order before we sat down.

One guy he knew looked like he had been mummified for the past ten years, really odd-looking. Kelley explained that although his appearance wasn't the hottest that he man was really nice. Mummy man went on to explain to me that he had just went on a date with a woman who said God told her she'd be married at the end of the year. He said that the comment freaked him out because his wife died just three months ago and he was just looking to have fun. When he noted that he was still mending his oh-so-broken heart, he pointed down to his chain and showed me that he wears his and her rings around his neck. I did the whole smile and nod thing and excused myself from the rest of the conversation. I did overhear Kelley tell him he'd find a woman for him.

We finally placed our order and Kelley went to locate a seat while I waited at the bar for my drink. In the meantime he found a chick that he knew and started giggling it up with her. He gave me a brief story about how he introduced her to one of his friends and they ended on a not-so-good note.

The young lady ended up sitting at the table directly behind us, about arm length away. I know it was that close because Kelley kept turning his chatty ass around to talk to her and her date every few minutes. I swear her date got up from the table at least three times and each time, either she or Kelley started talking to each other. By this point, I wanted to excuse myself but I patiently waited for him to finish talking and eating.

After the restaurant, Kelley had a plan that included me spending the night, because he stated that he had plans for me in the morning. I let him in on the fact that I had plans for me too. His plans included him taking me to the gym to work out in the morning. This was the second time he mentioned the gym to me, stating that if I'm going to be with him, I need to get with the routine.

I decided to go to his place to watch a movie and after about ten minutes he gets a call and he's in his bedroom laughing and having a great time. He told the person that he didn't hear his phone ring and how he just walked in the door, even though he was on his cell phone. I told him I was leaving and he still stays in the room finishing up the laugh fest. I finally got the door unlocked myself and he comes running out. He starts hounding me asking me if I'll come back. I left his place and was homebound.

He calls me as soon as I pulled up to my apartment and decides if he talks to me long enough he'd lure me back over but there was no way that was happening. I told him I needed to use the bathroom and that I'd call him back. He insists that I mute the phone instead of ending the call. After arguing about it for a few minutes I put the call on mute and never went back to it.

Kelley started to call and send texts, letting me know how mad he was but at that point, I didn't care anymore. His last text said that he wouldn't ask me to spend the night again. I hope he is true to his word and that he never calls me again. Farewell, Crazy Kelley.

Dinner Plans...Gone Wrong

I met this guy, Kelley, whose a bit older than me a couple weeks ago. He actually tried to "rock" me as he had his arm around me. Do you have a newborn somewhere sir? I am not a baby. He goes on to say, "Oh sorry, I used to rock my daughter like that." Yuck!! Are you thinking about your daughter while I sit here, that's...kinda....gross!

He decided to catch an attitude with me the other day and I actually found it quite funny. We made plans to hang one day and he said at the end of the conversation but don't make plans because I may be able to still see you today. That was the end of the convo. Fast forward to that night and I'm on the phone and watching tv. At one point I heard a beep indicating I had a text and realized I had three texts waiting.

The texts were all from him and he started off asking was I still coming. Um, when did we agree that I was coming over? The next text said "So..... Then the final text said "nevermind then." I wrote him explaining that I was on a call and hadn't gotten the messages and that I wasn't ignoring him. He disagreed saying it felt like that to him. "Yeah okay," I thought. Now by this time it's like 10pm.

So I guess he figured that since I replied, it was dialogue time. He again asked if I was STILL coming when again, we never decided I was. I politely told him we never agreed to it. Then I told him that we could keep with our original plans for tomorrow and asked if that was okay. His response, "Yeah, it's okay. But, I'm gonna pass on tomorrow. I don't like how you handled me."

I just sat there like what the hell just happened here?! So being the sarcastic person that I can sometimes be, I replied, "ok." All that did was add fuel to the fire, he instantly calls me saying that I didn't have to reply to that. Well mister, if you didn't want a response you shouldn't have said anything smart. Then he goes on to explain that he was upset because he had made me dinner and I didn't show up. My thing is, how was I supposed to know you made dinner? He response was that is what surprises are! How do you plan a surprise though when the person doesn't even confirm they're coming?

I declined leaving the house and coming over for his meal. He said "well let me go put all this food away." I just said "alright." I still haven't decided if he is crazy or just made about the effort that he put forth for the dinner plans that went wrong.