Thursday, January 14, 2010

Dinner Plans...Gone Wrong

I met this guy, Kelley, whose a bit older than me a couple weeks ago. He actually tried to "rock" me as he had his arm around me. Do you have a newborn somewhere sir? I am not a baby. He goes on to say, "Oh sorry, I used to rock my daughter like that." Yuck!! Are you thinking about your daughter while I sit here, that's...kinda....gross!

He decided to catch an attitude with me the other day and I actually found it quite funny. We made plans to hang one day and he said at the end of the conversation but don't make plans because I may be able to still see you today. That was the end of the convo. Fast forward to that night and I'm on the phone and watching tv. At one point I heard a beep indicating I had a text and realized I had three texts waiting.

The texts were all from him and he started off asking was I still coming. Um, when did we agree that I was coming over? The next text said "So..... Then the final text said "nevermind then." I wrote him explaining that I was on a call and hadn't gotten the messages and that I wasn't ignoring him. He disagreed saying it felt like that to him. "Yeah okay," I thought. Now by this time it's like 10pm.

So I guess he figured that since I replied, it was dialogue time. He again asked if I was STILL coming when again, we never decided I was. I politely told him we never agreed to it. Then I told him that we could keep with our original plans for tomorrow and asked if that was okay. His response, "Yeah, it's okay. But, I'm gonna pass on tomorrow. I don't like how you handled me."

I just sat there like what the hell just happened here?! So being the sarcastic person that I can sometimes be, I replied, "ok." All that did was add fuel to the fire, he instantly calls me saying that I didn't have to reply to that. Well mister, if you didn't want a response you shouldn't have said anything smart. Then he goes on to explain that he was upset because he had made me dinner and I didn't show up. My thing is, how was I supposed to know you made dinner? He response was that is what surprises are! How do you plan a surprise though when the person doesn't even confirm they're coming?

I declined leaving the house and coming over for his meal. He said "well let me go put all this food away." I just said "alright." I still haven't decided if he is crazy or just made about the effort that he put forth for the dinner plans that went wrong.

9 comments:

Jaded said...

hmmmm. I don't understand why he didn't call/ text you earlier in the day like: hey I'd like you to come over BEFORE he started cooking. I mean I love surprises too but confirm that that party you want to surprise will actually be in attendance lol.

Trish said...

Right, I agree! It was a great gesture but just not planned well.

Young woman on a journey said...

hmmm. i wonder if he actually cooked!

Trish said...

YW-My coworker wondered the same thing. But how awkward would it have been if his guilt trip worked and I came over and there was no cooked meal?

buttahflychronicles said...

Red flags all over the place here, Trish.

Jameil said...

that dude is crazy. and sensitive. irritating combination. whatever man! don't tell me i'm not supposed to respond to something. you said it. call and response! lol

Trish said...

Buttahfly-See that's what I was thinking....

Jameil-I guess he's used to dealing with women who hold their tongue, not me!

Rashan Jamal said...

That dude didn't really cook. He wsa trying to get you to feel guilty. I vote for crazy.

Nina said...

Funny funny....I'm with YW. You'll never know if he really cooked. It'll be interesting to see what the next encounter will be!