Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Just When You Thought....

This morning, I woke up to a text that was sent at 1:33am. I didn't recognize the area code but the message was definitely intended for me. It was from the chick and it basically said that I did in fact know that the Nbr was married and how I will never get a man as long as I mess with men who are married.

I woke up angry as hell. I was infuriated. I tried calling the number and of course she didn't answer. It pisses me off that she has my number and that I don't have hers because of course her crazy ass bought another untraceable cell phone. After that I didn't bother replying my text, I simply blocked the number from being able to call me.

It has been like four months since Nbr and I lived together and to my knowledge he has been with her ever since. Why does this heiffa keep calling me?! I will tell you why because she is a sociopath. I seriously feel sorry for his children being raised by someone who is mentally unstable.

What pisses me off most about this other than the fact that I don't see why she won't get over it is that she has the nerve to have a beef with me. IF and that's a BIG IF the Nbr happened to be married, she knows that he lived with me. Also, this may seem shady to say as a woman, but even if I was messing with a married man, I am not obligated to her, HE is, so if you have beef, take it up with the man you're MARRIED to, not me, bitch.

Monday, September 24, 2012

The Date

Well the guy that I met at the mixer asked me to go out Friday evening, we'll call him PK. We met up at a mutual venue and walked around and chose a restaurant in the area. We chose this really nice sushi bar and talked for hours. He asked me questions about my life and vice versa.

PK and I hadn't realized how long we were talking until the waitress came and told her that her shift was over but that another waiter could cash us out. He and I looked at it as our queue to leave. After leaving there we walked around taking in the scenery, it was a perfect evening. As we walked the street looking at a mini waterfall, he grabbed my hands and interlocked our fingers. I am not your typical PDA person, so that made me feel a tad bit uncomfortable. Nonetheless, I kept my hand in PK's as we strolled along.

The night ended with PK walking me to my car and kissing me goodbye. Again, I was caught off guard by him kissing me, not because I didn't enjoy his company, but kissing on the first date....I don't know, maybe I'm old-fashioned......I commented that it was a bit strange because it was strange having him kiss me in a parking lot as cars continued to drive past. He asked me to call him when I made it home and I did. We've texted since then but today, I did not hear from him at all. He did let me know that he was going to Mexico for a family vacation, so should I not expect to hear from him?

Idk....we shall see.....

Tuesday, September 18, 2012


Last night, the online website that I joined hosted a mixer. I wanted to go to the event but the site said that it was already full. I logged on to the site the other day and they invited me to the event, I thought hey, why not??!

Well I literally had to have my new hanging buddy ML, call me and give me a pep talk before I would go in. The event allowed you to bring friends but BeBe put up a fuss about how nappy her hair was and that was her reason behind not going. At that moment, I realized that I need to meet more women.

Anyway, after dragging myself into the event, I walked in and straight to the bar for a glass of wine. After securing a drink, I met a girl whose BFF forced her into going as well. She also shared that all of her friends were getting married. I almost shared with the girl that all of my BFFs were married but decided not to. The fact that all of my closest friends are married doesn't bother me too much, I don't want to be stuck with someone that I don't like.

Well the mixer reminded me of a middle school dance, there were guys in clusters and girls huddled together talking. I told the girl I had been talking to that we may as ell make the most of this and we began talking to different people together. I don't know if anyone else has experienced this, but whenever there is a singles meet up, African-Americans are in the minority. Well of maybe 10 black guys, all but one were interested in everyone but a black woman. The good thing about me is that I do not have any problem talking to people outside of my race.

I did end up meeting a Hispanic guy that had me laughing the latter part of the evening. His phone died as he asked for my number. I took his number instead. He asked if I was going to really call him and I said yeah. After the event ended, he walked me to my car and on the way there asked me my screen name. I told him no need to know that because I promised to call. He and I were giving other singles tips and I told a guy to ask the girl I had been hanging out with for her number and he did. Next, he asked us if he should wait three days to call and I told him that was so 90s. My new buddy agreed with him and told him to call her Wednesday, so I decided that on Wednesday, I will call him as well.

Did any of you used to watch Mad TV? They had a segment called "Lowered Expectations"? That little piece always used to crack me up. The series was of singles that were clearly rejects looking for dates. Well I will venture to say that they could have been filming for Mad TV last night. There was one guy that had he had on a book bag, I would have been convinced that he was a serial killer. I began to wonder, wow, am I a freak of nature too? LOL! I know that's mean, I quit. I met another girl that I exchanged info with as well. All in all, I'm proud of myself for going and talking to complete strangers.

Monday, September 10, 2012

Fizzle Out

So I need to know how long to chat with these guys online before I just stop talking to them. Other than the perv, another guy asked if we could chat away from the computer so I gave him my number yesterday afternoon but no contact from him as of yet.

There is another guy, let's call him Retail, he and I have been emailing back and forth the past couple of days but now we're down to one liners after getting through the initial Q & A. I feel like the conversation has hit a bit of a lull. My thinking is, maybe I should just not reply to his last one lined sentence. Opinions?

Up next is LS (he mentioned that he is planning to go to law school in the next year or so). He seems alright, but again, how much do you really get to know emailing someone, but then again, I don't want to give all these random people my number because as I mentioned, I know enough crazy. He messaged me this afternoon asking how my day went but I have yet to reply. There happened to be an article on MSN today about dating tips, so I plan to apply them to see how they actually pan out.

Lastly for tonight's update is Family Guy. FG seems like the typical southern man. He likes all things sports and outdoors and spends a lot of time with his family. Since I'm huge on family, that is a definite pro for me. To me, he looks older than he actually is but people always say that I look really young for my age.

Since Jameil challenged me to write about the experiences, this is just a brief update. I'm just glad that no one else has tried to come at me sideways. Stay tuned.....

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Online Dating

So a girlfriend of mine talked me into activating an online profile. It is funny because about a month ago I was all set to but chickened out. Well imagine my surprise when I logged in Friday and discovered that my profile was indeed active! I had messages that I had no idea were even delivered to me. In fact, I missed an email because I hadn't logged into the account in time.

I must say being in a huge city does not mean that it is easy to meet people. Occasionally I meet people out so I thought okay why not try online. There are some true characters out here. One guy asked me to send him a current pic so I was like okay well that's kind of understandable because people do use old pictures of themselves sometimes. He then proceeds to ask me if I can imagine him kissing me after he sent me a picture of himself. I replied ummm no, especially since I have never even met you. I'm guessing he got the point because I haven't received another text from him. The next thing that I need to do is figure out how to block him so I don't get any calls, texts or emails, I have enough craziness in my life without inviting any more in.

I know without a doubt that there will be more stories to come and I can't think of who better to share them with than my online fam. I hope everyone is having a good weekend!!

Friday, August 31, 2012


I did a two day fast this week. Not long for some people but for me, it was just enough. I feel like I have been in a vicious cycle lately, doing the same dumb things and wondering why I keep getting the same stupid results.

I've decided that after my lease is up that I am going to use a roommate locator so that I can pay off some bills and save. The townhouse I went to see a few weeks ago was wonderful and made me really yearn for home ownership. The current state of my financial situation will mean that I will never be able to save up enough for a down payment so I need to take the necessary steps. I am also going to start looking for a new job. My prayer is that any increase that I get will also go towards bills and savings. I was reading up on Vision Boards and I want to make one for myself, there are so many things I want, so I need to put them down and bring them into fruition.

The guy I had been dating kind of ticked me off. I asked him to do me a favor and he said he would but then went into asking me a ton of questions. It was Sunday when I asked him to do said favor and he has yet to mention it. When he wants or needs something, he never has to mention it more than once to me. I feel some kind of way about having to ask people who I am always there for to do something for me several times. I feel like if it was something he wanted, then he would have been more diligent about following up. I have made up my mind that if he doesn't mention it by Monday then I am done with him. It may seem petty but I am tired of wasting my time with people who don't treat me as I treat them. I was already thinking of cutting him off because we hadn't spoken in a week and he came contacting me. I had packed up a few things that he left at my place and put them in my front closet. He asked about his items when he came over. I went to the front to get them and he made a comment that I put his stuff by the door like I had done with Nbr's things. You're damned right, I don't have time for the bull.

I am ready to really start taking care of me because if I don't nobody else will. When I am cleared to start back working out by the doctor, I will. I am ready to get my life back on track.

Sunday, August 12, 2012

School's Out

I am officially done with classes! I put blood, sweat and tears in this program and I am so glad it is over. As always, my group members were burning the midnight oil, waiting up until the final hour to submit our assignment. I actually sighed relief after the work was submitted.

I mentioned to a particular guy that I would be celebrating the end of this exhausting program this weekend and he said that he wanted to take me out. Friday night, we went out for Sushi and also played pool later on in the evening. It definitely felt nice to be treated extra special on an evening that was so important to me.

Last night some of my classmates met up for Happy Hour. I really enjoyed my time and got to see a guy I hadn't seen since my trip to China. We had a good time and you would never know it had been a year since we've seen each other. He took me to breakfast this morning but will be leaving town in the morning. If we lived in the same state, I could totally see us together...I haven't had a weekend go this well in months!

I don't think all of this will feel real until I receive my degree in the mail. There are so many things that I have been slacking on due to school, well I no longer have that excuse and I'm ready. First things first, I need to start looking for a new place ASAP!!

Thank God I made it and I will be impatiently tapping my foot until that degree arrives!!