Friday, April 24, 2009

JT Part 2

So after getting that message on my machine I immediately called JT going off about the foolishness. He swore that it was nobody he knew and said that it must have been one of my friends. His rationale was if it was a chick he knew, why would she speak negatively about him and call him a name? So I retorted with the same comment about it being a friend of mine. I thought that his sister had something to do with it because she never really cared for me but after a week, I just dropped it.

A month or so later JT got into some trouble and was sent off to Job Corps. I told him we should just break up because I know how things went when males and females all lived in close quarters and I wasn't thinking about having sex at sixteen and he would be all around it. He of course assured me that I had nothing to worry about and even went so far as to say that he wouldn't go to the program if I was going to break up with him. Since I was a sucker in love, I told him we could still be together.

In the beginning he'd call every couple days and the calls began dwindling. The girls in their 20s at work would tell me that he was cheating on me and how I was a fool to think he wasn't. But I got in my head they were wrong, so what we were in high school, we had real love. That was until the call came.

After almost a week of waiting he finally called and I ran to the phone. He had called his mother collect and she called me on the three way. In the meantime she had set the phone down and picked up a different line at his grandparent's house to call a friend of hers. I guess she was too ignorant to mute the phone because we heard her entire phone conversation including the part that she told her friend that JT was about to dump Trish.

I just got silent. He asked me if I heard what his mother said and I couldn't say anything because my throat practically closed up and the tears came. He tried explaining to me that he was trying to do the "right thing." All I could get out between the tears was how I knew I should have just broken up with him before he left. He apologized and we got off the phone.

When I pulled myself together, I went into my parent's room. My dad asked me what was wrong and said it looked like I lost my best friend and I just started crying again and left out of their room. My mom came after me asking what was wrong and I told her that JT just dumped me. She apologized for my dad and said that he was teasing and he had no idea.

A month or so passed and he started calling me to tell me about his new gf that was in Job Corps with him. Being dumb, I listened and it used to hurt but I rationed that I'd rather have him as a friend than nothing at all. He began to realize that this stranger wasn't all she was cracked up to be and that the grass looked so much greener on the other side. So he started asking about if we could ever get back together and I told him no and he should work out things with the girl he thought was so much better than me.

He finally graduated the program about nine months later and came back home. Unfortunately, so did the girlfriend. His aunt allowed her to stay with them and that was a big mess. She hated me because he and I still talked and hung out but I wasn't going to give up my friend for her. Her jealousy manifested into empty threats as she swore she would beat my a** but never attempted because she knew better.

A few more months passed and their relationship came to an end and he stepped up his approach to get me back. Months of turning him down lead to me finally giving in and giving him another chance.

Back in those days I had a group of four best friends. We spent our weekends and weekdays together. A couple of them lived super close so we'd be over each other's houses alot whereas two of our other friends houses required a car ride to get to their homes.

So every weekend we made plans to hang out but once JT came into my life I juggled my friendship with them and my relationship with him so that nobody felt left out. Almost like clock-work, he and I would make plans and he would end up standing me up. I will never forget one time my friends were going to see a movie that I really wanted to see and I told them that JT and I had plans. He never called or showed up that night. What made it even worse was that my friends called me after the movie and eating and told us that they saw JT at a local movie theater standing outside with his friends.


Again, he had humiliated me.....

5 comments:

Miss.Stefanie said...

Thats not cool........

Trish said...

Stef-Yeah we live and we learn

Young woman on a journey said...

being stood up is my pet peeve. that will make me break up with someone. i had a similar experience and that's why it bothers me so much. isn't it crazy the things we go through at a young age for men. and even worse, how they always show their true colors over and over and over again before we recognize it.

Trish said...

Young Woman- Yes, it is really sad. Looking back, I wonder why I dealt with so much when there were guys of substance that liked me and I wouldn't give them the time of day. But getting stood up definitely became a pet peeve of mine too!

Nina said...

damn...