Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Eleven Hours

This is how many hours I talked on the phone to the guy from Texas. I call him Toot as a nickname because he toots his own horn a bit, but its funny and not a conceited-type turn off. It started with him getting off work yesterday morning and calling me and we talked well into the afternoon when my battery died.

I can't remember talking to someone for so much time, especially since I've been grown. There is never a dull moment or a time when we're just holding the phone. This has been going on for about a month and I'm not bored yet.

It's funny because I didn't expect at all to meet someone online that I liked and looked forward to talking to on a regular. There are times that he passes up on going out if I decide to spend the night in just to "keep me company." He makes things comfortable by sending pics on a regular of not only him but other elements of his day. I'm not one of those people that has their pic all over the web or sends pics of herself to people but he actually has me sending him pics regularly too.

I can't wait to see him, we've been couting down since he bought my plane ticket. I originally had a ticket but my bosses declined my request which would have had me in Texas this past weekend. Since getting the ticket things haven't dwindled as far as our conversation. The pessimist in me has me thinking that things are going just too good. Now I'm not saying he's perfect, he has quite a few things that are flaws including the fact that he is separated and beginning a divorce. Toot is alot better than me at expressing his feelings, whereas for me, the past has me with this big wall up.

Am I being irrational? I don't know. Is he saying what he thinks I want to hear? He seems really sincere with things he says and is pretty forthcoming with information. I don't wanna be a fool and belive a fairytale. We complement each other so well, sometimes its scary. Thing is, not like he left his wife for me or anything like that, but I have been in a similar situation before. My radar hasn't went off yet, remember I told you all about how sometimes I get these warnings but I ignore them, so I'm not having any doubts at the moment, just thinking that I will take things a day at a time.

So aside from that, I am trying to not be nervous about meeting someone in person for the first time. Have any of you met someone from online? I think that initially it will be a little weird adjusting to actually not being on the phone but in person but nonetheless I am super excited.


Young woman on a journey said...

don't think too hard about it because you'll just stress yourself out. however...i would say just make sure that you are aware of the situation you are getting into and are comfortable with the different consequences and ensure that nothing you don't want or aren't ready for doesn't happen! otherwise! good luck!

Anonymous said...

Yep, I met someone from online before. It wasn't that much of a big deal, but people kept telling be to BE CAREFUL.

But this was locally. I wasn't being taken out of my element. Our meeting was on our terms and such.

It didn't work out because he was too parnoid and jealous as a result of a previous relationship. And I've been told that I have the tendency to flirt without even knowing it, lol. These are details that our telephone conversations couldn't reveal.

Anonymous said...

I meant to say that our meetings were on MY terms.

Trish said...

Young woman-You're right. I'm not really at the point of stressing its just the closer the date gets the more my nerves kick up a notch. I will be careful. Thanks for the advice.

Buttahfly-Yeah there are certain things I won't know until I'm actually interacting with him face to face. Locally does seem alot more ideal.

Funny, you've been told you flirt and don't know it. I've been told that I look at people out of the corner of my eye, but I say its because I'm aware. LOL! Thank you for sharing your story.

Miss.Stefanie said...

Met someone online and she became my best friend for 15 years now. However I did meet a guy online...and our friendship/fooling around lasted 10 years! Goooo figure...However I do not make it a habit...there are weirdos! lol!

Trish said...

Stef-HAHAHAHA!! Yeah there are weirdos online but hey, I met a pyscho at a gas station that won't leave me alone. But I think its cool you have met long-lasting people online. I have a friend I met on i.village about 4 years ago but she and I never met in person.