Friday, April 23, 2010

Growing Up

I talked to one of my BFFs(Songbird) since elementary school last night. As we've gotten older the group of us have all remained close but as life goes, we don't talk as often as we did when we were younger. We all make it a point though to keep in touch and give updates about what is going on in our lives.

I got a text from Songbird saying that she wanted to catch up and asked when I'd be free to talk. I told her that on Tuesday I would be free and we made plans to chat then. Tuesday came and went and I didn't remember to late in the evening that we hadn't spoke. I texted her asking if the mishap in us talking was my fault and she said she had been awaiting my call.

So anyway, when I called her, we said our hello's and immediately, I asked what was wrong from her tone. You know how it is when you know someone and you can just pick up that something is up? That is the vibe I got from her. Her reply was nothing was wrong. So I pressed on asking well if nothing was wrong, then what was not-so-good? She said that she just wasn't feeling good. I asked her why and she replied because she's pregnant. She then told me that they are getting married and soon before she even starts to show.

I can't honestly remember a time I was so speechless as I was processing that news. She said hello repeatedly and as my lips moved, nothing came out. I told her that I needed a few minutes to get myself together. When I finally could muster up some audible sounds, I laughed and that turned to crying. I couldn't believe that all of this was happening so suddenly.

Songbird has been with her guy since the same time Teddy and I became official so this is why it took such a toll on me. Not only have I not met this guy but now she is having a baby with him and marrying him. It seems like I am missing everything with my friend's lives but I know it's a part of being an adult.

My other BFF that is with Military Man is planning to get married next month around the same time at the courthouse. They even joked with each other about how they may all be in the same room sharing vows mass-style.

I can't lie and say I'm not a bit saddened that two of my best friends will both be getting married in a courthouse and that I won't be there. I'm happy for Songbird because she is genuinely happy and she had discussed with me over a month ago that she felt he was the one. The jury is still out on the union between BFF and Military Man.

8 comments:

Nina said...
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Miss.Stefanie said...

Getting married in a courthouse is uber common nowadays--and the quickness of it often is right and often is wrong. Be happy and trust things will fall inot place Trish.

Trish said...

Funny Nina because I was thinking would I rather get married with a big round belly or forego a wedding. I just want her to be happy and if she is, I'll have to keep my feelings about feeling left out to myself.

Stephanie-Yeah I don't think the place you gets married determines the longevity. I have a brother that got married at a courthouse and they've been together ten years. My other brother that got married two weeks after him had a wedding and is on wife #3 now!

Nina said...

So sorry about the dup comments...blogger is BUGGIN. If the wedding was in motion before the belly, fine. If the belly set the wedding in motion, idk...

Jaded said...

ha! Same thing happened to my friend!! She was with her hubby for a short amount of time. Said he was the one. Got preggers. Got married. It was whirlwind.

She's happy though so, ya know; can't be nothing but excited too. I can't front like I would want that for myself but...I can only hope for the happiness she feels (sans a baby lol).

Trish said...

Nina-There were no solid plans just the know that they both wanted to marry each other.

Jade-That's where I am with it too. I just want her to be happy. I also hope that she doesn't find out any bad traits or habits after the fact, since she hasn't really known him all that long.

Young woman on a journey said...

i agree with what everyone has said so far. i mean, i don't know if its a good idea to get married simply because you are preggers. but getting married quickly does not determine the longevity of the marraige. its all the luck of the draw.

it sucks that you have to miss these events in your friend's lives!