Monday, October 5, 2009


I have knots in my stomach. I hate this feeling and whenever I have it my head is all over the place at the same time. I didn’t communicate with Teddy at all yesterday. This has been the first time since July that we haven’t spoken.

Our last conversation was Saturday night. I had called him after I attended my friend’s wedding reception and he was asleep. I asked him if he was watching tv and he said that actually it was watching him. So I said well then talk to you tomorrow. Yesterday came and went and nothing.

In the past, if someone goes MIA I just wait for them to resurface, they always do. This time, I could barely sleep last night wondering what was up. So I texted him this morning like I normally do and told him that I hope everything is going alright. Well he normally replies immediately to my texts but not today.

So now, I’m kind of confused as to what to do. I’ve learned in the past that if something like this happens, you worry thinking something may be wrong with the person. But I’ve found that 99.9% of the time, there’s nothing wrong with them at all and they’ve gone “missing” by choice. I kind of made it up in my mind that if I don’t hear from here either tonight or tomorrow that I will call him.

I already feel like I’m taking a big leap outside of my comfort zone by even reaching out to him since he hasn’t contacted me. I honestly just want to know that nothing is wrong. If he somehow decided that he didn’t want to talk any more than there’s nothing I can do about it. I just hate the knots in my stomach and not knowing.

What would you all do?


Young woman on a journey said...

i would call once. i know exaclty houw you feel, reaching out of your comfort zone. but what do you have to lose? looking like you care? isn't that what you do everyday anyway? call once. twice max. if he doesn't respond, take the hint and move on. but i don't think you can run away until you try. otherwise the only thing you'll be losing is yourself.

Trish said...

YW-I will call him tonight. I guess my thing is for the life of me I can't figure out why he'd just stop talking to me. Then I was wondering was this a test, was he trying to see if I'd contact him despite the fact that he didn't call me. Who knows? Guess I will get my answer today.

Nina said...

dang....i hate that feeling..i'm with him. hopefully, he's not acting up.


Rashan Jamal said...

First time coming through - I obviously don't know your whole story, but I do know that feeling of waiting. Hopefully by the time you read this, contact has been restored. Good luck!

Trish said...

Rashan-Welcome! I think more of us have played the waiting game than we'd like to admit.